SOCIAL ROOT CAUSES OF LONELINESS
Loneliness may have many varied root causes. However,
identifying the root causes in a specific situation of loneliness
makes it possible for an individual to be helped. The
following is one root cause of loneliness that can be considered
for the sake of our studies.
They are considered root causes because there can never
be a solution to any problem without first dealing with the
root of the problem, and this is the same with loneliness. It
is common knowledge that every tree or fruit produces after
itself and the root of every plant that grows downwards determines
its fruits growing upwards.
We live in a society that promotes loneliness. Ours
is a fast, mobile, and changing society without any provision
for quality time with people. Technology and television
plays a major role in this aspect of loneliness.
Most people in the professional world are increasingly feeling
less needed as businesses, churches, and education gets bigger. Efficiency
and productivity has become more important at the expense
of satisfying relationships at many places of work. Computerized
mechanisms have been invented to take the place of human
labour; hence most relationships in today’s world are
shallow with the lack of contact making loneliness more dominating.
There was a time in the past when people worked together
without much emphasis on already programmed machinery. This
system kept people together beyond their places of work.
A fast growing, automated age has increased the number of
victims of loneliness.
Television and internet plays a major role in today’s
society. Because of television, there is much less
time for personal communication. The little time that
people do have in our mobile society is often spent in front
of the television and internet. Many people have replaced
church attendance with television church programmes. These
spirits of loneliness further keep people in front of the
internet on chat rooms, communicating with people they don’t
know with the intentions of finding a marriage partner.
The next social factor of loneliness is poor family relationships. A
number of studies suggest that family background is a crucial
factor in an individual’s vulnerability to loneliness. Relationship
to parents, childhood friends, less family togetherness,
and lack of family bonding early in life can contribute to
loneliness. Divorce, lack of affection with parents,
and domestic violence has contributed to poor family backgrounds
resulting in loneliness.
Poor self concepts and low self-esteem
including negative evaluations of one’s body, sexuality,
health, appearance and behaviour contributes to an individual’s
vulnerability to feelings of loneliness. A wise man
said, “When we have little
confidence in our self, it is difficult to build friendships.” Low
opinions of yourself can make you withdraw from others or
make you over exaggerate the qualities of your body in a
negative sense. Your self concept makes a person feel
weak within or shy. This could result in an excessive
need to depend on others. That means when other people
are not available, there is intense insecurity and deep loneliness
at work against you. The time has come for the Church
to take her place in taking care of victims of loneliness.
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